WELCOME
Please Don't Suffer In Silence
WHAT IS ONE CALL AWAY?
Hello. I have set up One Call Away in order to hopefully help you if you are in distress or a dark place for whatever reason and need help.
Please just book an available time slot and I will call you in strict confidence.
You can use an anonymous email and false name or no name at all if you would prefer. Either way, I promise you that our conversation will be completely confidential. I will call you at my own cost and for no charge of any kind.
“We cannot forget our dependence on our fellow men….these are the strongest bonds in the world, stronger than those even that bind us to one another, these are the deepest bonds – that bind us to our fellow man.”
J. Robert Oppenheimer. 2 November 1945.
HOW MIGHT I HELP?
I am a trained “reflective listener” at a well-established charity but am outside the UK due to COVID and cannot carry out my role as a volunteer. I am therefore offering to call or contact you to try to help.
I am able to offer you 40 minutes of my time and believe I can help you. I can usually do so by telephone around 12 noon UK and 5pm UK and can do so for one person per day. My offer is to anyone of any age, sex, colour, creed, religion or sexual identification. I speak English and reasonable Portuguese. It can be totally anonymous if you want it to be.
HOW DOES “REFLECTIVE LISTENING” WORK?
When we are in distress we often have nobody to talk to, or perhaps don’t want to talk to those we know. Often loved ones are not even aware of our distress and problems. And if we are lucky enough to have someone to speak to, it often makes matters worse. This usually happens because they are trying, in the best of faith, to solve our problems by giving solutions and advice. Unintentionally, they just make matters worse.
“Reflective listening” is listening in a manner that is all about you. It is non-judgemental, does not give advice, prescribe solutions or give opinions. In doing so, it usually helps deal with problem(s), reduce the stress of them and help you get through the day.
A simple analogy is that the many “cogwheels of problems” in our minds are moving at speed and life can become very difficult and blurred. By adding unprofessional advice on top the wheels just spin faster and make matters worse. Reflective listening does the opposite - it usually slows down the “cogwheels of problems” and helps us to see some light and clarity.
Please contact me I look forward to speaking on a completely confidential basis.
MY DISCLAIMER
I am not a medical or mental health professional of any kind. I have no medical or therapeutic qualifications. I am not a psychiatrist or counsellor. You should always seek out the help of a medical professional and no way see my offer here as an alternative to that. You also hold me harmless and waive any claims against me in respect of the time we spend together. I will be very happy to help you in any way that I can.
